Looking for Alice

Author: Henrik Karlsson
Source: https://www.henrikkarlsson.xyz/p/looking-for-alice
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Summary

Sometimes you just like a person without romantic feelings attached. You just wholly like them as the person that they are, and the person they bring out of you.

Takeaways

I got disappointed a lot, which was great because it meant by my early twenties, I could tell what I liked and what made me miserable.

you do not like a category. You like individuals. And you’re not born knowing which kind.

• We are so obsessed with labelling things and putting a name to feelings that we sometimes forget that there's not really words to describe emotions properly.

Some relationships can easily be compressed into a compelling string of words. This is usually because they conform to some sort of trope of how romance should look.

• However, as the author adds,

great relationships are harder to compress into a sensible string of words.